Good Smells and Bad Smells: The perfume industry worldwide is huge. This alone should be proof of the importance of smelling right. The human body produces a vast range of smells and some add to attraction but many can have the opposite effect. The Bad smells are usually anything that is associated with illness, poor hygiene or filth. For example, smelly feet indicate athlete’s foot disease. Bad breath indicates possible tooth decay and long-term sweat may indicate poor personal hygiene. Humans are consciously aware that most diseases can now be controlled or cured but subconsciously they remain terrified of them. Smoking, stale coffee, oily hair, alcohol, wet clothes and skin oils can all create unpleasant and unattractive odors. The first rule is to eliminate them.
Good smells are those that suggest cleanliness, health and comfort but are not so strong as to be overpowering. Light perfumes for women – heavier musk perfumes for men. Fresh smelling clothes and lightly scented hair are good. Comfort smells are those that people associated with good things and make people relaxed and open. Apples, cinnamon, fresh mown grass and vanilla are all good examples. One woman we know claims that she always dabs a hint of chocolate essence on her neck as well as her perfume and claims it works wonders. (Who knows she could be right.)
The basic rule is this: A bad smell is very bad and is a big turn-off. A good smell won’t draw the opposite sex compulsively to you but it will send the right message.
THE ALPHA SECRET – THE RULE OF ONE
The Alpha Body Language Secret is simple. Both men and women want to make the best match that they can at the time. One very strong consideration is the instinctive drive of both sexes to be attracted to the dominant member of the opposite sex. By dominant we don’t mean domineering but leading. So in group situations there will always be a single man and a single woman that become the focus for the majority of the interest and attraction. Therefore if you wish to have the greatest chance of attracting someone you need to become the Alpha in the group. There are two simple ways to do this. Firstly, you could be the Alpha person by making sure your appearance and behaviour allows you to assume this role. This is easier said than done. Secondly, you could make sure you are naturally the Alpha person by ensuring that everyone else of your sex is a beta. Put simply, don’t hang out with people that are noticeably more attractive than you are. If you do you’ll always be a second choice. Ever wondered how that average guy got that stunning girl? It’s simple – he was probably the Alpha in the group that met the girls. It works the other way around too.
BEAUTY & SYMMETRY (The Good & Bad News)
What is beautiful or handsome? This is one of the hardest things to define and yet all human beings seem to be able to instinctively recognise it. Is blonde better than dark hair for a woman? Is a strong chin more important than brooding eyebrows for a man? The truth is we just can’t make up our minds – both as the Aquiziam team and humanity in general. What the experts do seem to agree on is that facial symmetry or the balance between the features is important. The more balanced the greater the attraction. According to psychologists Viren Swami and Adrian Furnham in their recently released body language book “The Psychology of Physical Attraction”, facial looks are by far and away the most important factor in attraction. This is true of men and women but seems slightly more important to men. This sounds true although we’ve all been told for generations that it isn’t. Here’s a test. We bet you can remember what your favourite film star looks like but have a tough time remembering their height, shape and even their clothes.
Well that’s the good news and means that people now know that this is critical and can do something about it. However, the bad news is that makeup can only do so much. Cosmetic surgery can improve a person’s facial looks but is it worth it? Well it seems that the growing trend of young people to have their features fixed means they obviously do. They are still a minority but a growing one.
GET REAL – THE RULE OF TWO
Whether we like it or not – when it comes to body language everyone has a natural degree of attractiveness to the opposite sex. To make this understandable you can assign yourself (realistically) a score from one to ten. You will be attractive to anyone of your score, a point higher or a point lower. People two or more points lower than you are likely to be distrustful of your motives. (He/she can’t possibly be interested in me?) People two or more points higher are likely to be dismissive. (I can probably do better.) Now this is a general rule and depends on the conditions of the time such as the competition, the level of alcohol consumed, etc. Also, an attractiveness score is based on more than looks although these play a huge part. Similarity is a fundamental part of attraction and therefore similarity in attractiveness levels does make scientific sense.
PUSH THEM OUT – SUCK IT IN! RADIATE CONFIDENCE
When we say push them out and suck it in we are referring to women’s breasts and men’s stomachs. This is not to put them on display (which doesn’t hurt) but this posture projects body language confidence. The underlying psychology of this message is simple. I am worth noticing and taking an interest in. The first person that must believe that you are desirable is you.
And … the Bonus Body Language Point …
Basically it works like this. Almost every person alive has something specific that they find intriguing and attractive in the opposite sex that seems to defy the laws of common sense. By being aware of these you have that secret added advantage over your competitors. Some of the most common if unusual attractors (and you can check these for yourself) are:
Attracting men …
- Sexy Female Feet: 23,100,000 web results
- Sexy Lingerie: 60,500,000 web results
- Sexy Uniforms: 963,000,000 web results
Attracting Women …
- Sexy Soldier: 22,3000 web results
- Male Stripper 12,300,000 web results (Est.)
- Sexy Role Play: 38,400,000 web results
We’ve only listed three examples for each gender but there are hundreds. Some are truly bizarre.
A final thought on unusual attractors and body language is this. Men are currently more inclined towards these interests by a factor of 60% to 40%. Nobody is really sure why this should be. A final point, the interest in unusual attractors in females is growing year-on-year and should equal that of males by 2025. This may have to do with society relaxing its social female conditioning at an early age. Why is this important? Well, if you know a person’s fetish interest and play to it with your body language then you have powerful “mojo magic” when it comes to attraction.