Secret Heart Symbol

Around the world the classic “heart-shape” has come to represent love.  It’s carved into trees and printed on millions of valentines cards every year.  In one sense, the meaning of any symbol is what most people believe it means.  Still, to truly understand something it’s often worth looking beyond the obvious. What the heart-shape actually means is the subject of some debate.

What it doesn’t do is represent the form of an actual human heart which is fist shaped and quite unpleasant in appearance.  Also, a real human heart is not something the average person sees very often. Why would humans choose such an organ to represent their deepest most passionate love?  It would seem that they didn’t.

The truth seems to be that the heart-shape or “Secret Heart” was a stylisation of the vagina and the inverted head of a male penis.  So when “hearts become entwined” it means much more than just love.

Secret Heart Symbol
Secret Heart Celtic Hearts Entwined

The Secret Heart – Celtic Hearts

How can this be true?  There have been claims that it first appeared in Neolithic times but we’ve found no hard evidence of this.  It does appear in the Roman period and can be seen in 2,000 year old Roman graffiti in the cities of Herculaneum and Pompeii – occasionally on the walls of brothels where it features more detail than the modern version.  There is no question that sexual intercourse in ancient Rome and other great cities of the time was much more “liberal” than now but, even then, there were restrictions.  (Pliny the Elder) One theory is that it was a secret symbol that a man would give to a woman to indicate that he wanted to make love to her – especially if there was a restriction on them being together – perhaps a difference in social status.  A woman might do the same thing.  The heart symbol seems to have first represented lust before it became associated with love.  Think how similar it is today and how many cards are signed, “From your secret valentine”.

Something that ties in with this theory is the Silphium drug.  During the emergence of the Roman Empire it seems that there existed a plant known as Silphium (a form of Fennel).  It is believed that this important plant grew only in the area surrounding the city of Cyrene in North Africa. Its importance is that it acted as a contraceptive and the seed was perfectly “heart-shaped”.  It was considered so important that it was imprinted on the coins of the time.  The demand for this plant was so great that it was “used” to extinction.  It’s interesting to note that Silphium has similarities to the word Sylph – meaning slender and desirable young woman – a virgin.  This aspect of virginity becomes more important as more about the Secret Heart becomes clear.

Silphium Coin Heart Shaped

The Silphium Coin

The Hungarian Heart Design

The Hungarian Heart

So how did the word Heart become associated with the shape?  The answer has more to do with connotation than design and the clues can be found in the way we use it in language today.  Think of these expressions: “It is the heart of the life”, “He left me heartbroken never to be whole again”, “His love stabbed my heart”, “He made my heart throb” (not beat but throb – and that is a very old word indeed – meaning to pulse and contract – possibly Anglo Saxon), “My heart shuddered with desire”, “She surrendered her heart”.  We could go on but the innuendo is obvious. The word Heart once meant centre or deep inside.  We still use it today when we refer to Heartwood which is the wood deep inside a tree.  Whether it was slang or whether it came from a change in meaning the similarities are simply to overwhelming to be ignored – Heart once meant vagina or even virginity.

Then, the Dark Ages!  Shortly after the Convocation of Constantine (Convocation of the First Council of Nicaea in 325 where allegedly the books of Bible were chosen) the Christian Church appears to have begun a determined campaign to rewrite history – and the future. In particular, they set out to remove the rights and power of women.  (The Da Vinci Code) By 410 AD the Romans had abandoned Britain and by 476 the Western Roman Empire had failed – but still Christianity persisted but by now largely controlled by men forbidden to have sex. Desire was seen to be evil and women, the source of male desire, were vilified. (The Sign of the Rose – another allegory for Vagina)  Have no illusions! Sex was still the driving force and there are many churches that still have carvings of an extremely pornographic nature. (see picture).  Still, the mystery of the human body in general and sexual teachings in particular, had become taboo.  It is about this time that we see the rise of Alchemy and “secret wisdom” taught through hidden words, codes and symbols.  It is during this renaissance period (c1600) that we first see the emergence of the design or designs known as the “Secret Heart”.

Remember that much of the history we accept as fact was written by the Church – and they appear to have reviled women.  In fact, the only women that they would accept were those that locked themselves away from temptation in nunneries – sometimes literally driving them insane with repressed desire.  The “secret heart was a way for knowledge to be passed-on without using actual images.

‘My heart shuddered with desire,
his love stabbed my heart
and he made my heart throb.’
Broken Bleeding Heart – Loss of Virginity
‘I fell in love and he broke my heart – never to be whole again.’
‘Oh my poor bleeding heart!

There is much more history that can be cited but the real proof lies in the design. Viewed from the front the symbol clearly depicts a female’s pubic mound with or without spread vulva.  There’s no doubt that this is a much more realistic interpretation than that of the human heart.  Equally, another version of the symbol may signify the female genitalia viewed from behind.  A design from the 15th century (La Blessure) depicts the female symbol (Venus) inverted and superimposed on the heart shape.

It is also common to see a heart “pierced” by an arrow with tiny droplets of blood.  This is cupid’s arrow – the arrow of desire and love.  Some even suggest that droplets of blood represent the breaking of the hymen and the loss of virginity. The arrow is also the definitive phallic component of the Male symbol – Mars – the erect arrow.  In plain language it is a vagina penetrated by a penis. We still use the word shaft to mean the shaft of a penis and the shaft of an arrow.

So how did it become so widely spread? One theory is that the Christian Church adopted and sanitised it. They certainly used this strategy to overwhelm many other pagan and pre-pagan beliefs and symbols. Easter was once a celebration of fertility – that’s why we still give Easter Eggs. The very name comes from the pagan Goddess Eostre whose sacred animal was the rabbit – Easter Bunny (ever wondered why?). This wasn’t the only conversion. The names of most of the weekdays are actually named after Nordic or Roman Gods, Thor – Thursday, Frija – Friday, Woden – Wednesday, Saturn – Saturday. Mayday is actual a fertility rite, Lent was the pagan lean month when food stocks needed to be conserved and the halo – or rays of light from the head of the deity – were actual a representation of the Egyptian Sun God Ra.

The Secret Heart

The Secret Heart

The symbol to the left is another depiction of the Secret Heart. It allegedly dates from the Romano-Greek period and was reproduced in both Spain and England c 1700. The Word “Tergo” seen written in the circle can be translated from Latin as “From behind” or “The Rear”. In this version of the symbol the lines of the heart extend beyond the normal shape associated with the heart. The words “Connubialis Pectus Pectoris” seem to mean sexual heart. The words “Connubialis Tripudiam” appear to mean sexual happiness. The inverted female symbol of Venus is integrated into the design and a smaller heart links the circle and the cross.

The cross itself is enclosed by four smaller hearts of excellent geometrical precision which in themselves make up the shape of the “lucky” four leafed clover symbol. The arch may represent the vulva.

Secret Heart Gargoyle
Secret Heart Gargoyle

A little more than one hundred years ago, the modern heart symbol was popularized by yet another sexually restrained (but very sexually active) society, the Victorian’s. They adored the romantic heart shape and just like their historic counterparts used it as a secret symbol for sexual desire. It was during this time that the erotic book “The Pearl” was written by an anonymous author.  It is has been reprinted and is available on  Like the Secret Heart, The Pearl was another Victorian “code” for the clitoris.

It is possible to cite example-after-example.  Literature is literally littered with them.  You don’t have to go looking for them – once you understand what you are looking for the examples leap out at you.

In short, the true secret of the Secret Heart is that the simple and innocent Heart Symbol that is used today is actually derived from the shape of the male and female genitalia and once meant passionate lust not just love.


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