So … Who do you think Barbie really wanted? (Notice that both men have blue eyes and dark hair)
Don’t sweat it! No … we really mean don’t sweat it – nervousness causes unpleasant sweating. For most men (you’re not alone) this is the hardest part. Men feel as if everyone is watching them and waiting to see if they score or bomb out. Adrenaline is flooding their bodies causing them to experience the masculine “Fight or Flight” response to stressful situations. Of course – the problem is that meeting a woman is neither. As with everything in life, the more you do it the less stressful it becomes. Adrenaline is a catch-22 hormone. It prepares men for action but can also make you appear rigid (not in that way) and awkward. The more approaches you make the more relaxed you’ll become. So what if the first 10 women laughed you off – who cares! The world is full of sexy beautiful women. Remember the golf game – nobody, especially you, should expect to win the first time you play. According to General Taurusian Von scheißen just do the math. There are more than 60,000 nightclubs around the world. On any night each of these nightclubs has at least 25 single and available women inside. That means that each year more than 547,500,000 (half a billion) women are waiting to meet somebody special. In short you can screw up 547, 499,999 times before you run out of opportunities. Yes … it is B.S. but we hope that it gets the point across. You actually have very little to lose by losing as long as you have the guts to try again.
One last thought on this subject is this: The motto of the SAS, the most feared airborne commando unit in the world, is “Who Dares, Wins!” It’s not “Take Care and don’t lose” Says it all really!
HUMOUR – MAKE THE LADIES LAUGH – BUT NOT AT YOU
Women are generally very attracted to men that can make them laugh. You could read a book on this and why it works and still not completely understand it. In short, psychologists claim that laughter releases “feel good” hormones that are very similar to sexual hormones and this makes a woman attracted to the man that is causing her to feel the way she does. This could well be true! Everyone knows a guy who is seriously overweight and definitely no longer handsome but can take his pick of the single women he meets just because he always makes them laugh. Sometimes he tells jokes, sometimes he teases them but eventually he gets what he wants. It’s a rare skill.
Really! Make them laugh.
DON’T COME ON TOO STRONG
If there is one thing that all women have an issue with it’s their fear of desperate guys. Desperate guys are a big, big turnoff. Life is too short to try and understand why but guys that “try-to-hard” are definitely on the scrap heap before they even rev up the motor. Guys actually feel the same about girls. If you don’t get what we’re telling you then watch the music video “Too Fly for a White Guy” by the band “Offspring” or listen to the song “Some Girls Try to Hard” by “Blink 182” . You should be interested in her but not so into this contact that the girl suddenly starts thinking, “Am I the first girl that this guy has talked to in his life?”
She has to believe that you’ll walk away at any time if you feel like it. Maybe girls like a challenge? Maybe they don’t want what any other girl could have had. Who the hell knows exactly, but wise up – “Too keen and you’re a has been”.
MATCHING THE PACE
This is where the guys often go wrong. You recognised the signals and acted. You talked, she talked and you’ve got stuff in common. (A good thing) You made her laugh. Your body language is right and so is hers and then you moved too fast (or not at all) and blew it. Does this sound familiar?
So she touched your hand? This wasn’t a signal to jump the table and try and stick your tongue down her throat. Here’s the rule – match the pace that she sets. Mimic her body language without making it obvious. It’s a game guys and she wants to see if you know the rules. If she’s moving slow then take it easy. If she’s going fast then don’t wimp out and back off. If she leans forward then so do you. If she accidentally touches you then you need to respond at the same pace. This is the warm up before the game.
Oh, by the way, if she’s moving really, really, really slow then find someone else. Even if it works out then you’re letting yourself in for a world of frustration – maybe decades of it. Girls should have just the same level of sex-drive that guys have. They just use it differently. If it’s too, too slow then it’s a no go. Do yourselves a favour and find someone else!
Body pointing is powerful Mojo (body language magic involving the soul or your very life force). Make sure that your body faces (points) towards hers. She should be pointing hers towards you. This achieves two things. Firstly it excludes other people (men and women) that might interfere and secondly, it shows readiness and attraction.
People that have an affinity for each other tend to subconsciously mimic each others body language. Affinity means liking each other. This is pure body language wizardry. You can gain an edge by making sure that you’re body language mimics hers but don’t be stupid and make it obvious. This means not copying her every move but rather using similar body language in general – say a minute later.) Just remember, she’s just as smart as you are – maybe more. God help two people that have both read this and then meet each other.
MORE USEFUL FLIRTING TIPS
Look at her mouth but don’t ignore her eyes
As you talk don’t be afraid to look at her mouth. Watch her lips move as she speaks. Most women can sense when a man starts looking at their mouth and know that this is a subconscious desire to kiss them. This is a powerful flirting tip for men. It shows desire, sincerity and hunger for them. Still, don’t be so obvious that she thinks that you have a lipstick fixation. With effort, tear your eyes away from her lips and meet her eyes. Look deep and passionately into her soul. She’ll love this. Very Hot!
Don’t be Afraid to Blink
The rule is that the more that a person blinks the more stimulated they’ll find themselves. By blinking yourself you’ll trigger her to start blinking too. If things are going well then her blink rate will start to match yours. The more she blinks, the more she is going to feel attracted to you. Please don’t overdo this. If you sit there batting your eyelids like some neurotic psycho then she’s going to run a mile. This is definitely a case of “less is more”. Use it wisely.
The Eyebrow Flash
Eyebrows and what they do are a micro-tell. Both women and men just can’t help lifting them when they see someone they’re attracted too. The problem is that this body language subtle and is often done in less than a microsecond. You’ll need to be a pro to recognise this.
Keep her Talking
Women do talk more than men. Here’s the truth – women want to understand the world – Men want to change it. Understanding requires explanation – words. Change requires action. Let her talk. As she talks the more comfortable she will feel with you. Still, don’t let her forget why you’re there with her. You want a mate. You’re not her psychiatrist. Talking is good but too much of it is bad. If you allow her to use you as a listening post then you’re a girlfriend or at least someone who’s sliding into the ‘Friendzone’. Gently focus her, on the moment and the reason you’re together. This is a really good time to use your humour skills. Make her laugh. Get her talking about the moment – after all the moment is you.
Don’t try and fix her – She’s not broken
Women are extremely casual about self-disclosure. This means telling you about themselves and their issues. For a man this can be scary stuff – way too much information. Surf it as you would a wave. As a man you’ll instinctively want to “sort-out” the problem. Here’s a tip guys. Women don’t think like you do. Women don’t want to be fixed. They want to see how you respond. If you try and fix their issues then you’re a girlfriend. If you have the strength to continue focusing on her as a sexual person then you’re a potential mate. This behaviour maybe some kind of test that nobody really has a clue how to explain.